First of all, I want to thank each of you who gives me 3 minutes per week. Y’all are heroes and you’re very welcome here.

Now, onto the newsletter.

Last week I wrote about being addicted to solutions not how I feel.

And then I had a hell of a day.

My wife and I had twins a couple weeks back. It’s been a whirlwind and I’m the most blessed dude on earth.

But that shit ain’t easy.

Fast forward 6 days after the twins are born.

The twins have their one week check up. The doctor asks how much they’re eating. We tell her.

“That’s not enough,” she says.

Cool.

By the time you read this, I’ll have clocked in maybe 40 hours of sleep in the last 2 weeks. We’re getting up every 3 hours (no taking turns with twins) to feed them and we’re diligent they are eating well.

We’re good parents.

The doc made me feel terrible.

But then it got worse.

We had that appointment at 10:30A. Based on random results, we had 2 more appointments happen that we hadn’t planned on.

Anxiety. Exhaustion. Rabbit holing.

We didn’t end up leaving the hospital until 4PM.

😩

Welcome to humankind

Here’s how I process difficult stuff.

When no one is watching, often when I’m in the shower, I’ll talk to myself. Complain. Get things off my chest. And leave it be.

It’s harder when you aren’t sleeping.

And I haven’t had time to myself for two weeks.

Any one who knows me will tell you, he doesn’t freak out. He’s calm.

And 99% of the time I am.

But we’re talking about the 1% today.

I lost my shit. I slammed a door. I broke something and stubbed my toe because I was so angry.

We all have those moments.

So today’s lesson is how to handle the emotion when it’s boiling over.

1 physical lesson. 1 mental lesson.

Let’s dive in.

The danger zone

You’re not meant to hold it all together all the time.

So don’t create an unwinnable vision for yourself.

The least helpful thing you can do when you’re losing your shit is to make yourself feel bad for losing your shit.

When my 3 year old has a tantrum, we remove him from the immediate area and talk to him calmly.

Why? Because he can’t think straight in the danger area (the spot where the tantrum is happening).

You’re no different. If you’re losing your shit in the kitchen, step into the living room.

If you’re losing your shit at your desk, step outside.

The moment your shit is lost, you’re in the danger zone.

Physically leave it.

Four quarters

There’s a mental framework out there that tells us to divide our day into 4 quarters.

Why? Because games aren’t lost in any single quarter.

But they can be won with one quarter.

On my crap day I lost Q1.

I lost Q2.

I lost Q3.

But I won Q4.

And if you can win one quarter a day. You can win more than one.

The following day was incredible. All the tests we had with the kiddos came back great. I got a ton of snuggles in and I was able to help somebody.

Win, win, win, win.

The point?

When something shitty happens, your day isn’t ruined. At worst that quarter is ruined.

Champions don’t win every quarter. But they win their days.

And you’ve got champion written all over you.

Let’s recap

When you’re losing your shit, leave the space.

And know that you’re allowed to lose a quarter here and there.

You’re a human being.

Enjoy being one.

So lose your shit. Get some sun. Get some help if you need it.

And go and win the next quarter.

See ya next week.

Here’s a framework I’m obsessing over

I’m calling them The Five Factors.

To find joy and purpose in your work, you’ve gotta have these or you won’t sustain it (Courtesy of Steven Bartlett).

1. Challenge

2. Progress

3. A meaningful goal

4. Autonomy and control

5. A supportive community — thanks to everyone who’s stepped up with kids being born btw.

If you want a future newsletter to deep dive these, drop me a reply.

They’re fascinating!

Here’s my purpose in life

I’m on a mission to help 10,000 solopreneurs double their potential.

So I’m creating a framework that does that in 90 days.

Sound crazy? I thought so too. Until…

If you’ve been here since the beginning, I can’t thank you enough for supporting me as I’ve found my calling.

But I can say without doubt that this is it.

If you’re a solopreneur that…

• Feels like you’ve run out of ideas

• Knows you’re not managing your time well

• Is second guessing your decision to start the business

• Wishes it wasn’t taking so much time away from things you love

I’m building the FIRE Framework for you.

In 60-90 days you’ll:

• Know what your purpose in life is

• How to leverage your time to grow and have fun doing it

• Cut distraction and work on the “right” things

• Be twice (or more) as capable as you believed you could be

It’s 25% done and I’m already seeing amazing results for my students.

My mission is to make this framework one of those things that forces you to say:

I’m putting my heart and soul into it to build the most value possible.

If you want to see the beta or get added to the waitlist, reply to this email with “FIRE” and I’ll give you a bit more info.

I'm using systems and resources to improve 1% every day.

I’ve been active on LinkedIn every day since March. In the beginning, I had no clue what to post. Luckily, my pal Steven has created an entire year’s worth of content frameworks. All you have to do is fill ‘em in.

Answer me this.

What’s one thing that’s preventing you from hitting your potential right now. Drop me a reply.