I’ve struggled with balance for years.

I look at what I’m dedicating my time to and I see problems.

In 2020 it was selfishness.

In 2021 it was drinking too much.

In 2022 it was overworking.

So what is it in 2023?

Let’s look at my last couple of months.

I’ve been grinding building stuff. This newsletter is one of them. I’m keeping up with my full-time job, which has more clients than ever. I’m getting on the phone a lot, coaching, meeting, and helping all that I can. And I’ve had a lot of family over in the gear up to twins coming soon.

It feels breakneck pace. It feels unsustainable sometimes.

But one thing I am not doing is repeating mistakes I’ve made in the past.

You can have it all

You’ve heard the saying, “I don’t have time for that.”

Maybe you say it. Maybe you say it a lot.

I used to.

But we’re lying to ourselves when we say that. The more accurate statement goes like this:

“I’m not prioritizing that.”

We always have time for what’s most important. And when I realized that my overwhelm wasn’t a time issue but a priority issue, I started cutting out old habits and gathering new ones.

That’s where the balance came in. I treated it like a program, not an outcome.

And while a happy life might not be a measurable goal, I took the approach of using this program of prioritizing by joy.

I asked myself, “What am I saying ‘yes’ to?” and then started organizing them by joy.

One in. One out.

Once you know what brings you joy, you know what you want to keep.

Everything at the bottom of the list has to go.

If it needs to be done, find out how to automate it or delegate it.

If it doesn’t need to be done, prioritize eliminating it in <30 days.

Once you’re on that path, realize that everything you want to do moving forward should have a counterweight.

We call this “One in. One out.”

If I say “yes” to a new project, it’s because I’m able to say “no” to TV or scrolling social media.

The more joy. The more balance.

I don’t care if it’s cliché. You truly don’t feel like you’re grinding when you’re doing what you enjoy.

I feel like I’m doing more now than ever before. And while I don’t feel balance all the time, it doesn’t feel so far away (like it used to).

But one thing I learned the hard way:

It doesn’t just fall in your lap. You have to work at it.

For me, that starts with prioritizing by joy and taking action.

What’s it for you?

Forgive me. But it works. 👇️ 

I’ve been taking a lot of big action on prioritizing relationships and helping people fulfill their potential with mental frameworks and activation systems.

Two weeks ago I helped someone tighten up their priority list and now they’re paying it forward to their spouse.

It’s little wins like this that compound like crazy.

That’s what I do. I help put some FIRE in your life so you can get ownership of your time—filling it with joy.

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